Tools To Help Kids With Anger  

How do I know if my child is having anger challenges?

1. Silent and holds in feelings. 

2. Acting without thinking.

3. Has difficulty dealing with frustrations.

4. Regularly requires reminders to control temper.

5. Refuses to accept responsibility.

6. Blames others for actions.
7. Appears to not care about other's feelings.

8. Often uses physical aggression for example kicking, hitting or shouting
9. Difficulty calming down.

10. Have trouble calming down when they are upset.

11. Bullying others.

12. Behavior changes from calm to upset quickly.

What are some tips to help children handle anger in better ways?
1. Writing down feelings, having a journal.

2. Drawing about feelings.

3. Puzzles or coloring. 

4. Create a calming place. 

5. Counting to 10 while taking deep breaths. 

6. Teach positive self talk. (I can be calm) 

7. Teach children feelings. (sad, angry, nervous, irritated, frustrated, happy, excited)

8. Teach children it's ok to be upset. 
9. Hit a pillow or punching bag. 

10. Calming activities. 

11. Teach think before you speak. 

12. Exercise reduces stress.
13. Once they are calm, have them express how they are feeling and why. 

14. When calm think of positive solutions to reduce anger for next time. 

15. Use relaxation techniques. 

16. Practice yoga. 

Books To Help Children With Anger 

A Little SPOT of Emotion Box Set (8 Books: Anger, Anxiety, Peaceful, Happiness, Sadness, Confidence, Love, & Scribble Emotion)
This box set includes 8 Emotion Books:
A Little SPOT of Anger
A Little SPOT of Anxiety
A Little SPOT of Happiness
A Little SPOT of Sadness
A Little SPOT of Love
A Little SPOT of Confidence
A Little Peaceful SPOT
A Little Scribble SPOT

When I Feel Frustrated: (Children's Book About Anger & Frustration Management, Children Books Ages 3 5, Kids, Preschool Books) (Self-Regulation Skills)
Life doesn't always go as planned. Sometimes we fail and feel frustrated.
* Frustration itself is normal—and in fact necessary to learn and grow
* Help children learn how to become more resilient
*Help kids develop coping strategies to manage frustration and anger
*Feeling upset is not a reason to give up

I Can Control My Anger (The Safe Child, Happy Parent Series)
The perfect tool to teach children how to evaluate and manager their anger. I Can Control My Anger provides parents, grandparents, teachers, and caregivers the opportunity to speak with children about this important topic.
Do you sometimes get angry? I do.
Sometimes I have such rage, I want to yell at the top of my lungs or shout at someone else. Sometimes I even want to shred something or stomp on it.
When I get angry, my heart beats faster than usual, I get hot, and my face turns as red as a tomato. Occasionally, I get cold and my hands shake when I am really frustrated and mad.
We all get angry, and we all feel that anger in different ways. We may get hot or cold. We may want to yell at our parents or our friends, or we may want to pout and not talk to anyone. We may want to punch pillows or we may just want to cry. Sometimes we know why we’re angry, and sometimes we don’t. And that’s okay.

When I am Angry: Kids Books about Anger, ages 3 5, children's books (Self-Regulation Skills)
Did you know that anger isn't all bad?
* Teach children to identify their anger signs
* Anger is a normal, healthy emotion.
* Teaching your kids to deal with disappointment
*Solutions that help kids handle their hot feelings in healthier ways

What To Do When Your Temper Flares: A Kid's Guide To Overcoming Problems With Anger Written Dawn Huebner
Guides children and their parents through the cognitive-behavioral techniques used to treat problems with anger. This interactive self-help book teaches children a set of anger dousing methods aimed at cooling angry thoughts and controlling angry actions, resulting in calmer, more effective kids.

Today I Am Mad: (Anger Management, Kids Books, Baby, Childrens, Ages 3 5, Emotions) (Self-Regulation Skills)
Kids feel emotions in big ways! Here’s a great story for helping kids manage their feelings.
Help children learn to identify and regulate their emotions
Anger is a normal, healthy emotion.
Behaving badly doesn't make you bad
Teaching your kids to deal with disappointment
Learn to tame your temper
Teaching kids about empathy, kindness, and compassion

Roaring Mad Riley: An Anger Management Story for Kids
No need to roar like a dinosaur―a story about anger management for kids ages 5 to 7
Find out that there are lots of easy ways to stop being angry with a little help from some super friendly dinosaurs! Roaring Mad Riley is a story about anger management for kids that is both a picture and activity book, making it fun to learn how to pause and cool down, even when you’re super upset.
Join Riley, Parker, and Mr. Rex on this adorably illustrated journey exploring anger management for kids. They’ll find out how to keep calm by breathing deep, counting to 10, shaking it out, and more. After you finish the story there are even a bunch of awesome activities you’ll be able to do with your parents―and the next time you feel angry!

A Little SPOT of Anger: A Story About Managing BIG Emotions
It can be really hard to handle BIG Emotions, especially ANGER! Kids experience frustrating situations everyday, whether it's someone taking their toy or they feel like they can't do something. This story shows them that instead of yelling or stomping their feet, they can practice some fun ways to help them stay CALM.
Count your spots from one to four,
Tap, tap, tap and tap once more.
Now fill your lungs with peaceful air,
and coat your SPOTS with love and care.
By associating emotions with something a child can visual (bright red spot), they are able to see when a small feeling of frustration can easily turn into into a big ANGRY emotion. They will realize they can manage their spots of emotions with fun counting and breathing techniques by watching an ANGRY SPOT start to shrink down.

Train Your Dragon To Accept NO: Teach Your Dragon To Accept ‘No’ For An Answer. A Cute Children Story To Teach Kids About Disagreement, Emotions and Anger Management
Having a pet dragon is very fun.
But your dragon can get very angry and upset when you tell him “NO!"
He can burn your house down to the ground and everything you own!
What do you do?
You need to teach your dragon how to accept “No” for an answer!
Get this book now and learn how.
Fun, cute and entertaining with beautiful illustrations, this playful book will teach kids how to handle Disagreement, Emotions and Anger Management.
A must have book for children and parents to teach kids about Disagreement, Emotions and Anger Management.

Some Days I Flip My Lid (Learning to Be a Calm, Cool Kid)
Teaching kids to be calm and cool with life's challenges becomes much easier when they learn they have choices in handling their emotions.
Some Days I Flip My Lid follows third-grader Max as he develops self-awareness of his emotions by learning Mindfulness techniques called MINDFUL BREATHING and BREATHING ON PURPOSE. At school, on the playground and at home, Max develops skills not to flip his lid when he is scared, worried, sad or upset. A colorful and delightful story for the classroom, at bedtime or whenever your child needs a mindful reminder to be a calm, cool kid.

Anger Management Workbook for Kids: 50 Fun Activities to Help Children Stay Calm and Make Better Choices When They Feel Mad
Show your anger who’s boss―50 fun activities about anger management for kids ages 6 to 11
Anger is a normal emotion just like joy, sadness, and fear, but it can be difficult to know how to express those feelings in a good way. The Anger Management Workbook for Kids is filled with 50 playful exercises to help you handle powerful emotions. You can stay calm and make better choices when you feel angry. Other workbooks about anger management for kids ages 6-12 wish they could be this fun!
Discover ways to recognize angry feelings and react to them safely, so you can be nice to yourself and others. Draw a picture of what your anger looks like, write about your feelings and needs in different situations, and more. These awesome activities will give you the tools to manage your feelings through gratitude, friendliness, and self-kindness.

I'm Not Bad, I'm Just Mad: A Workbook to Help Kids Control Their Anger
Most children learn to stop throwing temper tantrums, talking back, and refusing to go to bed or take a bath at an early age. But some children have trouble with impulsivity and self-control. Left unaddressed, these issues can lead to some very serious problems in adolescence and adulthood. Anger control problems are the number one reason that children are referred for therapy, affecting children as young as three years old. Since anger problems in children may indicate other significant concerns, it pays to address anger in kids as soon as possible. If a child in your life has an anger problem, you need the friendly, effective activities in this book.

Emotions Book for Kids – 21 Different Feelings, Toddler Flipbook for Learning Moods – Help Children Understand Emotions - For Autism, ADHD, Anger Management, Special Needs – By Parents and Therapists
Help your Kids Understand their Emotions –
Angry or Bored? Make the Right Choice – Your little one will first learn to recognize which emotion they are feeling. Then they will learn which action to take. It’s a great teaching tool about emotional regulation.
An Essential Learning Tool – Sturdy, great graphics and the perfect size for little hands. A great behavior toy for kids with Aspergers, Down Syndrome, ADHD, Autism (ASD), Anger issues, Stress or any child with sensory or speech issues.

Anger Management Activities for Kids: 50+ Exercises for Understanding Feelings, Staying Calm, and Managing Strong Emotions
Stand up to your angry feelings―50+ fun, anger management activities for kids ages 5 to 7
Everyone gets angry, and that’s OK―it’s how you express your angry feelings that really matters. Anger Management Activities for Kids is filled with more than 50 engaging exercises to help you understand and manage your anger so you can express yourself safely, without hurting others or yourself.
Discover enjoyable activities that illustrate where anger comes from, what it feels like, how to show your feelings, how to tame your temper, and even how to understand and help other people when they’re angry. With this workbook about anger management for kids, you’ll use your imagination, have fun, and get creative as you learn how to show your anger who’s boss!

Me and My Feelings: A Kids' Guide to Understanding and Expressing Themselves 
When a big feeling comes along…you can handle it! Managing feelings for kids ages 7 to 10
Sometimes, emotions like anger or jealousy or excitement can seem too big to keep inside. Me and My Feelings is here to tell you: It’s okay to have big feelings. And the good news is, you can calm down those strong emotions―so you won’t feel like you’re going to explode!
This book shows you how to stay in control―by breathing deeply, saying positive things to yourself, talking about your feelings, and more. You’ll learn to deal with all kind of feelings, including the hard ones like sadness, anxiety, or even fear.

Feelings & Anger Games & Tools For A.D.H.D 

Childswork / Childsplay Let's Talk About... The Gift of ADHD Card Game
Ages 8 and Up. This game will create a unique opportunity for kids and teens to understand the special skills that are associated with ADHD and apply these skills to everyday problems and concerns. This game takes a positive approach to helping kids and teens with ADHD, helping them see that their differences can also be strengths. Ideally, the game will help players see that their strengths can also be used to address problems associated with ADHD. Developed by Lawrence E. Shapiro Ph.D., a nationally recognized expert in emotional intelligence, this game can be played at home or in counseling sessions.

Temper Tamers By Free Spirit Publishing
Learn how to calm down and keep your cool in order to control your temper and express your feelings in positive ways. Ages 8–11, 101 cards, 3" recyclable plastic screw top jar. Based in Minneapolis, Minnesota, Free Spirit Publishing is known for its unique understanding of what kids want (and need) to navigate life successfully. Free Spirit's reputation as a leading publisher of Self-Help for Kids(tm) and Self-Help for Teens(tm) is grounded in books and other learning materials that are practical, positive, pro-kid, and solution focused. 

Miniland Emo Moogy The Emotions Board Game  How do you feel? The Miniland Emo Moogy Emotions Game helps children identify and communicate their feelings
Moogy puts names to the emotions children has and helps them explore why they may feel sad, happy, frustrated and more
Chunky game pieces are made from thick material, perfect for small hands
A fun way for kids to expand their communication and social skills
Includes 11 puzzle pieces and 8 emotions cards | For ages 3 and up

Don't Go Bananas - A CBT Game for Kids to Work on Controlling Strong Emotions
Based on the ABCD Model of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy: Kids work to identify what triggers their emotions, analyze the beliefs they have about those situations, explore their reactions and look for ways to change their thought patterns. 
For Parents and Professionals: Teachers can play Don't Go Bananas with small groups of kids in the classroom or parents can play with their kids at home. 
2-4 Players Ages 6-12: A variety of questions makes this game versatile for a larger age group. More thought provoking questions can be added or removed for easier or tougher gameplay

Mad Dragon: An Anger Control Card Game By Therapy Game HQ
This fast-paced therapeutic card game helps children ages 6-12: Control their anger in the moment; Practice 12 effective anger management techniques; Understand what anger feels and looks like; Avoid anger-provoking situations; Express and understand their feelings; Identify anger cues; Learn that they have choices about how to express anger. Mad Dragon plays like the popular game UNO. Players race to get rid of their cards while learning anger control skills. Fun and effective, this game includes 100 high-quality 3" x 4 1/2" cards, instructions, and tips for taming anger. For 2 to 8 players. 

Behind The Anger Card Game for Families - Anger Management Card Game, Comprehensive Anger Control Solution to Develop Coping Skills - for Kids 6+, Teens, Adults  ANGER CONTROL FOR KIDS A fun and therapeutic approach for kids of all ages to learn how to deal with and express their anger in a non violent way. Behind the Anger Card Game helps children develop the skills to identify the emotions hidden behind their anger and learn ways to positively deal with their emotions  DEAL WITH ANGER POSITIVELY Anger is an emotion that everyone has, regardless to age, culture, socio-economic background. It is not the emotion in itself that is a problem, but the way in which individuals deal with and express their anger is what makes the difference. 

Stop, Relax & Think: A Game to Help Impulsive Children Think Before They Act
Ages 6-12. By Becky Bridges, C.S.W., A.C.P. A game to help impulsive children think before they act. In this ever-popular board game, active, impulsive children learn motor control, relaxation skills, how to express their feelings, and how to problem-solve. The manual includes information on how the game can be used both as a diagnostic and a treatment tool, and how behaviors learned in the game can be generalized for the home or classroom. The object of the game is to proceed through the Feelings, Stop, Relax, and Think sections of the game board to Finish, collecting chips along the way. The player with the most chips when the game ends wins. Designed for counselors, social workers, therapists, and other helping professionals.

The Color Monster Children's Game
The monster is confused. He doesn't understand his feelings. Luckily, his friend, a little girl, can teach him how to sort out how he feels! This is a children's Game in which the players find colors that represent different feelings (calm, Anger, fear, Sadness...) and need to find where to keep them. They try to choose the object that can hold the feeling they've found, and then talk about a situation where they have felt that feeling before.
A Game for all ages based on the best-selling book series by Anna llenas with original art.
A great way to talk to the little ones!
Designed by dani Gomez and Joseph m. Allué, winner of awards for his design of children games.
2-5 players, 25 minutes play time
Ages 4+

DISCLAIMER: I am not an Therapist. I am an adult who has ADHD, a parent to children who have Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder and now a Grandma. The information on this website is not medical advice and does not replace the information that your child's therapists gives you. These are just ideas and information that I have learned myself over the years of being a parent and an adult living with Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder. (ADHD) If you are concerned for your child, please always seek medical attention through a family doctor, pediatrician or therapist. This website is for informational purposes only. Each child is different and what works for one child may not for another. Please always consult with a professional.